Nicola: [00:00:00] hello. Welcome to the female leaders of fire podcast. I am your host. I’m Nicola Buckley, and I am the coach work with women at the top of organization. Are those aspiring future? Helping them to find that fire, that passion, that purpose excitement, so they can have more impact, more influence and income as a result, uh, be a real force for good driving, positive change in their organizations, and really helping to change the world.

So today we’re on our third of our series mini series about coaching. So, so far we’ve covered. What is coaching? How does it work? What the boundaries, then we’ve talked about what to look for in a coach. And our second episode ad day, I wanted to talk about the benefits of coaching for women at the top.

So how is it going to really help you? And I’ll also [00:01:00] give some examples of client results. So women at the top of organizations can often be hyper independent, they trust, and they know that if they do it themselves, it will get done and it will get done to a certain standard. So what that means is at times, maybe not asking for help and maybe not comfortable with putting the hand up and saying actually, I need the help of someone.

I need a little bit of support here. So the first benefit I want you to talk about for coaching for women, that’s hot is coaching is an investment of time and money and effort in themselves. So it’s really an immediate reflection of their value and their worth and what they, how they see themselves and what they think of themselves.

So really that immediate, as soon as they say. As soon as they make that investment, there’s a real shift in energy, just for them just knowing that they’ve got that support, but also that they’ve made that investment. The second benefit is really around having space, having time to really focus in on you.

And many of the women I work with at the [00:02:00] top of organizations give so much to everyone else. There’s not much left for that. They give so much time. They give so much energy. They give so much expertise. To everyone in their life, they can easily be at the bottom of the priority list. So coaching is really space and time purely for them to show up with however they’re feeling, whatever they’re thinking that day and really focus in on themselves.

And it’s committed time when you’ve made that investment, you will commit the time to honoring that space and that time. It’s also another benefit is that within that space and within that time, it’s completely safe. It’s completely judgment free. So there’s no need to worry about what a peer might think of.

You. There’s no need to worry about what the, how the boss might react to you. There’s no need to worry. Always being that defender and that umbrella for your team, kind of defending them from the wide organization what’s going on. And you can say whatever you want, you can share whatever you want to. And over time as the trust grows and your [00:03:00] confidence grows, that relationship grows with you and your coach.

You’ll probably say more. And I’ve had a lot of clients who’ve said to me, I’ve never said that to anyone in my life before. So it’s almost it’s that time and space to speak, to think, to feel, to explore things. And whatever you say, whatever you bring in that moment is absolutely. It’s absolutely welcome.

There’s no right. And there’s no wrong. The fourth benefit is pretty just around. It gives you almost a place to explore. It gives you a place to be curious. It gives you a place where there’s no pressure. There’s no expectation. There’s no right or wrong with coaching. There is as a coach, I’m always looking for my clients and really own their journey, but there’s no expectation goes with.

It’s no pressure. You’re not doing it right. You’re not doing it wrong. It’s just what I expected. It’s like commitment to honor this investment you’ve made in yourself. And that’s something that I would not close with at times, but be curious, be open. Think of it as like an [00:04:00] exploration. You’re going to be.

Going on a journey of self discovery. You’re going on a journey to really, truly get to know yourself. You’re going on a, on a journey to become the world’s leading expert and yourselves to be open and be curious. And you can do that without expectations without the pressure that might be in a lot of your life benefit.

Number five is that it’s a neutral place. So it’s a place where I don’t have an attachment to the outcome as a coach. So for example, if we’re talking about work and actually you start to realize that over the longer term, that isn’t the same company you want to stay in, there’s no attachment to me for the hour.

I don’t, I don’t, I’m not passing or failing and thinking of myself as a success as a coach by the outcome, but the outcomes is hugely powerful and transformation, but I am neutral in terms of what they are. I try not to show up with any biases or any. Any sense of what it should be, because that keeps that energy of just [00:05:00] being open and being curious.

And the final benefit of coaching for women at the top is they have this supporter, they have this ready-made fan club and support crew that is there for them on the time say might be struggling, or they might be finding things to challenge on the flip side of that, the times they want to really celebrate the times they want to scream from the rooftops, what they’ve done.

Um, they’ve got that person in their corner and that’s someone that’s not bias that doesn’t have a particular perspective. It’s just someone that is just there for them. And it’s someone that it becomes a real cheerleader, a real supporter on that journey. And then just one more benefit. So I was thinking of things as well though.

My clients pitching me for something they’re finding challenging in that period of time. They get a toolkit that is with the, for life, they get tools, they get exercise, they get an understanding themselves that it’s going to be with them for the rest of their life and the rest of their career. So if they have a wobble, for example, they’re always going to have a couple of techniques.

They can come back to if they’re feeling like they’ve lost themselves a [00:06:00] little bit. I don’t understand the priorities. So they’re not prioritize themselves. They’re going to have ways of doing that. If they’re going into confronting or challenging situation, again, we’re going to have tools to help them with that.

So over the time that we coached together through the coaching relationship, all of my clients create their own toolkit. They create a, a set of skills, a set of experiences, a set of exercises that they can go back to again and again and again. So the investment is now, but. That took, it stays with them for the rest of that life.

So those are the benefits of coaching for women at hops. So what does that lead to? What sort of results does that give clients? So I’ve had clients, um, within the six months we worked together. They’d been promoted twice and really stepped into really own that role. Becoming the head of HR. I’ve had clients who have been invited to join the board.

So these are clients that were working at that level. But really the last thing that he needed to do was just to really know that they could be confident [00:07:00] to really own the expertise that they had. So they’d been, been then been invited to the board and then they’ve kind of really stepped into that role and they’ve become the CEO’s right hand woman.

And they’ve had this. Increase in that impact. And the influence actually was always there. It’s just some fine tuning to really bring out of them. I’ve also had clients that have gone from being pushed out of a company to actually being offered. Three jobs are higher level and earning more as a result of doing things that they’re really passionate about.

I’ve also had clients that have been made redundant and then being offered two dream jobs that they have to choose between. I’ve also had clients. The in that day-to-day is just so much better. So those are some of the really big things, but also clients that have had to huge wins in their day to day.

So clients that suddenly have more balance, so they’re not working evenings anymore. They’re not working weekends clients that know how to work more with their boss. That might be quite challenging. Clients that know how to manage a [00:08:00] very, very busy diary that has a lot of, um, a lot of expectation and pressure that comes with it.

Clients that really start to own their value and worth. They’re speaking up in meetings more they’re challenging behaviors that make them feel uncomfortable. They’re calling out languages out outdated, they’re championing and becoming a real role model for other women in the organization. So the final message I want to leave you with those results are just some examples, but every single client that I have, they have their own journey, so they will have their own results.

But the biggest thing I can say is it’s always, life-changing, it’s always transformational and it’s always going away with that toolkit is for life. So that’s it for today. If you are interested in coaching with me, do drop me a message on an email, all the details in the show notes. And I hope that was really useful.

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If what I talk about really resonates with you and you love what I have to say, and you have moments and flashes of inspiration from the podcast. I would invite you to get in touch, to find out how I can help you. So individually, that can be through my coaching focus program for my VIP program, depending on how you like to learn and what will suit you, or I can help you in your organization to really help the women that you work with across the organization at all different levels.

And at that very senior level to really feel empowered and to know that they can reach the very, the most senior levels in that organization and to give them the company. In who they are and the clarity, what they want to be able to get there. And we do that through workshops, do that through leadership programs, and we can do that.

Free consulting work. If you are looking for help with any of that, drop me an email nycla@nicholasschoolco.com. The spelling’s not the easiest. So all the details were in the show notes results I get for clients. Clients have been promoted [00:10:00] twice in the six months we’ve worked together. They’d been invited to join the board.

They’ve gone from redundancy to being offered three dreams. They’ve gone from being pushed out of an organization to going into bigger organization and a bigger role with a bigger pay rise and just a quote from a client that particular. I’ve gone from the pit of despair. When I started working with Nick to just being really happy and she is an incredibly empowered leader.

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